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Happy Being Single

There was a time I wanted to have a relationship. The heart falls hard. The relationship was not realistic. He wanted something else. I wanted the commitment. I felt a despair. Cried for days. Then I woke up one day and recognized what being single really means.

There are many women who write about being single. And they all have similar ideas about the happiness a woman can find being single.

Here are some of the reasons being single can bring you happiness.

  • You don’t have to settle for a relationship out of loneliness
  • You can still fulfill your dreams
  • You can still love yourself
  • You can travel when you have the desire to
  • You can work on yourself
  • No one is around to tell you when to go to bed
  • You can sleep anywhere on your bed or the sofa
  • You can put more time into friendships and family
  • You can focus on your health-exercise and eating habits
  • Being single allows you to learn about yourself!

Singleness does not define you, it does not have to determine if you are happy. Happiness is something you can reach for no matter your relationship status.

Here are some books I have read to help me work through my singleness.

Btw: I am still single and don’t plan on changing that!

Books

  • The single woman, Mandy Hale
  • Single, the art of being satisfied, fulfilled and independent, Judy Ford
  • On my Own, Florence Falk
  • A woman Alone, Travel Tales Around the World. Faith Conlon, Ingrid Emerick, Christina Henry de Tessan

Your Shopping Wishes

The single woman

Single, the art of being satisfied fulfilled and independent

On my Own, Florence Falk
A woman Alone, Travel Tales Around the World. Faith Conlon, Ingrid Emerick, Christina Henry de Tessan

Happy Day

Caroline

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Update on My Goal List

I made goals at the beginning of this year. The goal is to complete what was started! Let’s see what has been done. And read the books I have. Plus no additional shopping, use what I have with my arts and crafts.

The Knits

There are 2 knitting projects, one a scarf and the other is a wrap.

The scarf is knitted with seed stitch. The wrap is knitted in hurdle stitch. It has 4 rows which is row one: knit stitch, row two: knit stitch, row three: knit, purl, row four: knit purl

The scarf is getting close to being completed. I may be able to wear this scarf before the winter ends!

Below is purl stitch. Garter stitch is the edge.

The wrap has much more to finish. I just added the other skein of yarn a few days ago. I also have to stop knitting it at a certain length, so I can knit pockets for it. (being a little adventurous)!

Below is close up of hurdle knit stitch.

Books

I am not a fan of reading. I prefer to write, but I know my writing is not professional.

The Bible study is going well, every night I listen to the study and make notes. I have been learning a lot.

The other books-well they make it out of the bin, but then onto a table. I just can’t get myself interested. The goal was to read, not to complete the entire bin. Maybe I have revisit this goal.

I Bent the Rules

I was going to finish another cross stitch before I began Rue Paris. But I just wanted so badly to start it. So I am now focused on Rue Paris. I am ok with that. I think I will alternate between the one I need to finish and Rue Paris.

Below is how much I have accomplished on the stitching. I’ll stitch Rue Paris on Sunday.

Happy Day

Caroline

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Mission: To Minimize

This year my mission is to buy less and enjoy what I have. One of the things I have done was buy a book and never get time or energy to read.

So I gathered my books and put them in a bin. The bin is under my side table in my bedroom. The plan is to read every night for a half hour to an hour.

There’s no goal as far as reading all of these books. But the goal is to not buy any new books until I have read more than half that’s in the bin!

Only exception to buying a book is if I take a course related to my field and feel it will benefit me.

I wrote a list of books I have and want to read

Then I wrote a list of books I’m interested in reading that I heard about from other blogs at vlogs.

I continued writing my lists and this is a list of steps to take to minimize my life…

And these are the projects I want to finish before I take on more projects.

It’s a new year and time to make changes. Last year was stressful with no goals and no ambition. It was a year I was sick, felt bloated and extreme fatigue. Then I was diagnosed with gluten intolerance. And life changed. Now I want to own less, enjoy more and prioritize myself. I don’t want to focus on money but rather being smart about my purchases.

Happy Day

Caroline

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The Creative Formula

It has been awhile since I posted about The Creative Cure, by Jacob Nordby. (it’s been a long few weeks, no time to read) I have included chapter 7 and chapter 8 in this post.

Chapter 7 he writes about the creative formula. It was enlightening to read and brought me to a place of “Wow, this is just what I need.”

Here is a review:

Imagination +feelings/intuition +story=action/results

pick something you want to do, Here is my creative formula: “what would I love to create?”

being an artist who sells art:

imagination: going into the art studio. I can smell the turpentine, paint and hear the brushes on the canvas.

Feelings/intuition: excitement, overjoyed, “in my element”

story: If I make more time to be in the studio, then I can creative more art and can be creative daily.

Actions/results: Finished canvases, more to paint and enjoying the outcome of how my life can change.

Why do we need a creative formula? Because it helps with our dreams. It helps with a plan to make dreams be part of our life (steps to make it happen. And it can help us when we are stuck. it can provide a way to see how we might be sabotaging our dreams.

He explains with this formula, the progress and reality of the dreams happening the action, the resources and people to help and strategies will appear. All because you kept focus on the creative process.

He includes a personal discovery assessment in the book. He writes that writing in a journal daily along with meditation and relaxation and the personal discovery assessment can increase clarity to bring your dreams into reality.

Chapter 8 is a review and recap of the book. It reminds us of what we read about what if…?, socialization, the creative formula and living the life that is nature to you.

I will be taking time to do the personal discovery assessment on my own.

This book was insightful and I can see myself going through it again, taking time to do the exercises and continuing to write daily in a journal.

If you ever find yourself unsure of your creativity and intuition, read this book.

Happy Day

Caroline

More art has been posted to Etsy:

Shop link:

https://4pawsartstudio.etsy.com

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More on The Creative Cure

“…ask yourself what you can do to get creative with your creativity.” Pg 131

Chapter 6 has some great thoughts about creating a space to be creative.

  • Space-what is your space like? friendly? Declutter needed? Music? Lighting? Color of room, books, artwork, plants, rugs etc
  • Time– time of day, “honor this time as scared and let those around you know that you won’t be available.”
  • Ritual-“…transform ordinary moments into focused, sacred time that builds meaning and honors the inner creative self.” Mark beginning and end of your creative time. (List of ideas are included on page 140)

He wrote about forming a creative group which would be a support for each other, allow time to be creative together, trade ideas, help each other and be accountable for the creative work.

On page 134, Jacob Nordby shares an exercise, that includes a few good questions.

  • What creative practice would bring more joy into your life? There’s a list on page 128-129 that is helpful to answer this question.

My answer: sewing and textile art, knitting and crochet, painting, growing a small business

  • What is the smallest habit that could bring me toward this practice?

My answer: Experiment with painting techniques, find new knitting stitches to learn, learn more about weaving and start gathering supplies to make a quilt and/or dolls.

This was my favorite topic to read in this book. Very helpful.

Two more chapters to read, more posts to come about this book.

Happy Day

Caroline

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Sunday Stitching

The past week has been one of those weeks where energy was low and the mind wanted to do other things.

Yesterday I started to clean my bedroom. Tonight I might go through my dresser drawers and closet.

Earlier in the week I finished the stockinette stitch headband. I’m thinking about making a scarf or fingerless gloves to match.

Here’s the headband. It will eventually be for sale on Etsy. I have other headbands and scarfs for sale on Etsy.

Over the past few days my front door was painted. This morning I put the final touch on it. I used Hint of Cherry by Sherwin Williams.

Today, I just didn’t know what to do. Cross stitching seemed to be the decision. Painting just wasn’t an interest.

Here’s the update on the cross stitch.

Below is the close up to the details. Tons of colors. I stitched for about 6 hours today.

Later tonight I’ll be reading more from The Creative Cure by Jacob Nordby. I also started reading from my Bible and following a Bible study.

Until later

Happy Day

Caroline

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Chapter 6 Revitalizing Action

The last part of chapter 5 of The Creative Cure, by Jacob Nordby, had many writing exercises. I decided to return to those exercises later, as currently my mind has not been into the writing mode.

Chapter 6

Chapter 6 is about revitalizing Action, page, 116 “I never feel more alive when I am in the midst of making something from nothing.” That was certainly true for me this past weekend. I spent the entire day in the studio painting and being creative.

Here are the key statements the author wrote that caught my attention.

“Creative practices also reduce anxiety, provide a sense of accomplishment, and connect us to others and the environment around us.” pg 119-120

“…the magic of practice lies in two ingredients: mindset and commitment,” pg 122

pg 123 “We compare ourselves to others and then reject our own work, not realizing we are rejecting ourselves and our pursuit of joy in the process.”

pg 126 the author stated that we may have a regular schedule for our craft but stated “..but we want to broaden the scope and meaning to include anything that helps us restore our connection to inner joy.”

Joyful Practice: it can decrease anxiety, stress, sadness, depression etc.

there is a list in this chapter and what makes you have strong emotional response he suggests to pay attention to that.

so here is what gave me a strong emotional response:

  • rescuing or raising animals
  • gardening/farming
  • photography
  • flower arranging
  • playing an instrument
  • sewing and textile art
  • fashion design
  • jewelry making
  • knitting/crocheting
  • hand-spinning yarn
  • making your own anything
  • growing a small business

This list will be used for the first exercise at the end of this chapter.

I am not surprised at the list that gave the a strong emotional connection. I’m curious about this exercise later in the book. Aren’t you?

I’ll post more later

Happy Day

Caroline

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Chapter 5: I am enough..

I am reading the creative cure by Jacob Nordby. This chapter has some deeper writings to try.

It focused on the internal story we tell ourselves and to learn how to write your own story.

“the inner creative self takes a back seat, and the enemies of creativity take over.” Page 97.

The impact of the stories “…can lead to feeling uninspired, helpless, or hopeless in certain areas.” Pg 97-98

The exercise is about taking a list of “should and should not,” and explore changing that story.

Here’s mine: I should have studied art in Europe.

My story rewritten:

I stayed home to be with my mom. And discovered I wanted to work as a healer and art therapist like I wanted to when I was looking at colleges. This time gave me the insight and awareness to focus on my career and to become the art therapist I wanted. I now have a good paying job, and own my home and I can always travel Europe. With this experience I can be a creator and healer and can help others be stronger. I learned about my inner strength.

I am enough. I am safe. I love myself. I see myself.

More on chapter 5 later

Today’s art in the studio…

Started a new painting…first layer of colors.

Working on coasters…. selling on Etsy…

This painting is not completed…

Happy Day

Caroline

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Chapter 5-Poetry for healing

The exercise is about feeling through words. This writing’s focus is on finding feeling words and let go of all rules that apply to writing poems.

He suggested to find a imagine that gives a feeling. I chose a photo of me and my mom.

Write a list of words that describe the emotion, scene, colors and any details. Think if the 5 senses.

Happy, safe, pink, joy, giggle, love, soft, warm, calm, passion, excitement, kind, accepted, clean, sweet, gentle, cuddle, affection, sparkle

What are my thoughts

I never wrote a poem this way. I liked it. It gave me a nostalgic feeling, a longing to return to that time, it brought tears in me, that I’ll never have that touch again. The tears are about the loss, grief of my mom’s passing, but it’s also a longing of wanting to have affection again.

Page 97. “…The real practice is to nourish a sense of safety and begin to send signals to your subconscious that you are good enough and worthy of being heard and seen and accepted.”

Happy day

Caroline

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Chapter 5 Reclaiming my story

I have been posting about about The Creative Cure, book by Jacob Nordby.

This chapter is about creating your story.

I looked ahead in the chapter, there’s a lot of writing assignments.

I’m thinking this chapter will be broken down into mini posts.

So far it’s about storytelling and how we say things to ourselves. Page 86 “unconscious stories are the ones formed in part by the forces of socialization, rejection, and traumatic experiences.”

Page 90 he writes about rejection is part of the enemies of creativity. But it is also tied to perfection.

This statement resonates with me: “… perfectionism is like a creative poison so many of us willingly drink, without realizing that it’s paralyzing our ability to move toward our dreams and joy. We all carry the fear of rejection.” Page 92

Next post he explains about how a particular tool can help to overcome rejection…

In the meantime

Today was much too hot and humid. I found out a person I know is going through more life threatening issues. It makes me sad. She single and has to go through so many adjustments with her physical health, it saddens me. People forget single people are everything, bankers, shoppers, cooks, cleaners and their own nurse etc… I relate to this as I’m single and many don’t ever think about the challenges I face with my physical health. They just assume since I woke up, I’m fine. Not the case when health scares happen. I pray my friend gets a miracle and finds strength in her situation.

That was on my mind today. I took a nap, made dinner and cross stitched.

Cross stitch update

Here’s a detail of what I stitched today.

Happy day

Caroline